{"id":3060,"date":"2020-04-06T08:46:00","date_gmt":"2020-04-06T08:46:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/beta11.technodreamcenter.com\/360youthservices.org\/?p=3060"},"modified":"2025-11-19T08:48:18","modified_gmt":"2025-11-19T08:48:18","slug":"sheltering-in-place-boundary-setting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/beta11.technodreamcenter.com\/360youthservices.org\/sheltering-in-place-boundary-setting\/","title":{"rendered":"Sheltering in Place &amp; Boundary Setting"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"3060\" class=\"elementor elementor-3060\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d0e6867 e-flex e-con-boxed wpr-particle-no wpr-jarallax-no wpr-parallax-no wpr-sticky-section-no wpr-column-slider-no wpr-equal-height-no e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"d0e6867\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9ff63c0 e-con-full e-flex wpr-particle-no wpr-jarallax-no wpr-parallax-no wpr-sticky-section-no wpr-column-slider-no wpr-equal-height-no e-con e-child\" data-id=\"9ff63c0\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6f2a944 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6f2a944\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"entry-content\"><p>By: Meg Six, Clinical Intern Therapist at 360 Youth Services<\/p><p>Families and individuals are currently faced with an unprecedented set of challenges. Some of these challenges are brought on by the necessity of coexisting in a space each day, for the majority of the day. Yes, there are some ways to achieve distance through appropriate walks and exercise, but family members (and partners or roommates) are consistently together.\u00a0\u00a0This proximity means two things:<\/p><ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Almost everyone\u2019s schedules and routines have shifted<\/li><li>Conflict can develop due to how individuals respond to these changes\u00a0<\/li><\/ul><p>If we think of our family as a system, the system will change in response to a crisis. Some of these changes are altered routines other changes are likely stronger emotional responses and changes in how we communicate. Some individuals may find the stress manageable while some might have a shorter fuse or be more emotionally reactive at this time. These are all reasonable responses to stress.\u00a0<\/p><p>It\u2019s important, however families and individuals assess\u00a0<em>how<\/em>\u00a0they\u2019re feeling and reacting, and what might help them. Once these new needs are understood, reflect on boundaries that might help establish some stability and manage conflict.\u00a0<\/p><p>For example, many people are now working or studying from home. Family members may misinterpret your physical presence as an indication of your availability to interact when you\u2019re actually busy. This can instigate conflict if one family member is trying to manage professional obligations and the other is feeling hurt that their attempt at interacting was turned down. Each person is trying to adapt to this new routine but is inadvertently stepping on the others\u2019 toes.\u00a0<\/p><p>So, how do we manage situations like this?\u00a0<\/p><ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Think through what you need, communicate your needs and ask others what they need<\/li><li>When you ask others about their needs, allow them to fully express those needs before reacting to the request. If you don\u2019t understand the need, ask them to explain why their request is important to them<\/li><li>It\u2019s likely that everyone\u2019s needs have changed, talking about these changes can help establish clarity, it also allows individuals to better support each other<\/li><li>\u00a0Establish boundaries for your day, especially if there are multiple people in the house, creating a daily schedule can be a good way to set boundaries<\/li><li>\u00a0A schedule can be verbal or you can create a visual for each day or week<\/li><li>Set up a routine for checking in to see how your new routine is working for everyone<\/li><li>Allow for kids and parents to talk about new or different stressors, or to confirm if the boundaries are helping\u00a0<\/li><\/ul><p>Remember with all of this that a bulleted \u201chow-to\u201d list usually looks neat and tidy, the actual discussion and follow through might not be. If this way of communicating is new to your family, there will be a learning curve. What\u2019s important is making an effort to understand each other, balancing your needs with your family\u2019s needs can take time.<\/p><p>We recognize that there are different levels of family conflict. If you require additional support due to domestic violence, please use the resources below. Support and resources are available 24\/7 through these organizations.<\/p><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.metrofamily.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" aria-label=\"Metro Family Services (opens in a new tab)\">Metropolitan Family Services<\/a><\/p><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thehotline.org\/help\/\">The National Domestic Violence Hotline<\/a><\/p><p><em><a href=\"http:\/\/360youthservices.org\/\">360 Youth Services<\/a>\u00a0in Naperville, IL provides substance use prevention education and counseling for youth and families, as well as housing for youth experiencing homelessness.<\/em><\/p><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n    <div class=\"xs_social_share_widget xs_share_url after_content \t\tmain_content  wslu-style-1 wslu-share-box-shaped wslu-fill-colored wslu-none wslu-share-horizontal wslu-theme-font-no wslu-main_content\">\n\n\t\t\n        <ul>\n\t\t\t        <\/ul>\n    <\/div> \n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By: Meg Six, Clinical Intern Therapist at 360 Youth Services Families and individuals are currently faced with an unprecedented set of challenges. Some of these challenges are brought on by the necessity of coexisting in a space each day, for the majority of the day. Yes, there are some ways to achieve distance through appropriate walks and exercise, but family members (and partners or roommates) are consistently together.\u00a0\u00a0This proximity means two things: Almost everyone\u2019s schedules and routines have shifted Conflict can develop due to how individuals respond to these changes\u00a0 If we think of our family as a system, the system will change in response to a crisis. Some of these changes are altered routines other changes are likely stronger emotional responses and changes in how we communicate. Some individuals may find the stress manageable while some might have a shorter fuse or be more emotionally reactive at this time. These are all reasonable responses to stress.\u00a0 It\u2019s important, however families and individuals assess\u00a0how\u00a0they\u2019re feeling and reacting, and what might help them. Once these new needs are understood, reflect on boundaries that might help establish some stability and manage conflict.\u00a0 For example, many people are now working or studying from home. Family members may misinterpret your physical presence as an indication of your availability to interact when you\u2019re actually busy. This can instigate conflict if one family member is trying to manage professional obligations and the other is feeling hurt that their attempt at interacting was turned down. Each person is trying to adapt to this new routine but is inadvertently stepping on the others\u2019 toes.\u00a0 So, how do we manage situations like this?\u00a0 Think through what you need, communicate your needs and ask others what they need When you ask others about their needs, allow them to fully express those needs before reacting to the request. If you don\u2019t understand the need, ask them to explain why their request is important to them It\u2019s likely that everyone\u2019s needs have changed, talking about these changes can help establish clarity, it also allows individuals to better support each other \u00a0Establish boundaries for your day, especially if there are multiple people in the house, creating a daily schedule can be a good way to set boundaries \u00a0A schedule can be verbal or you can create a visual for each day or week Set up a routine for checking in to see how your new routine is working for everyone Allow for kids and parents to talk about new or different stressors, or to confirm if the boundaries are helping\u00a0 Remember with all of this that a bulleted \u201chow-to\u201d list usually looks neat and tidy, the actual discussion and follow through might not be. If this way of communicating is new to your family, there will be a learning curve. What\u2019s important is making an effort to understand each other, balancing your needs with your family\u2019s needs can take time. We recognize that there are different levels of family conflict. If you require additional support due to domestic violence, please use the resources below. Support and resources are available 24\/7 through these organizations. Metropolitan Family Services The National Domestic Violence Hotline 360 Youth Services\u00a0in Naperville, IL provides substance use prevention education and counseling for youth and families, as well as housing for youth experiencing homelessness.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3061,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_price":"","_stock":"","_tribe_ticket_header":"","_tribe_default_ticket_provider":"","_tribe_ticket_capacity":"","_ticket_start_date":"","_ticket_end_date":"","_tribe_ticket_show_description":"","_tribe_ticket_show_not_going":false,"_tribe_ticket_use_global_stock":"","_tribe_ticket_global_stock_level":"","_global_stock_mode":"","_global_stock_cap":"","_tribe_rsvp_for_event":"","_tribe_ticket_going_count":"","_tribe_ticket_not_going_count":"","_tribe_tickets_list":"[]","_tribe_ticket_has_attendee_info_fields":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3060","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-covid19-support"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/beta11.technodreamcenter.com\/360youthservices.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3060","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/beta11.technodreamcenter.com\/360youthservices.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/beta11.technodreamcenter.com\/360youthservices.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beta11.technodreamcenter.com\/360youthservices.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beta11.technodreamcenter.com\/360youthservices.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3060"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/beta11.technodreamcenter.com\/360youthservices.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3060\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3065,"href":"https:\/\/beta11.technodreamcenter.com\/360youthservices.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3060\/revisions\/3065"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beta11.technodreamcenter.com\/360youthservices.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3061"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/beta11.technodreamcenter.com\/360youthservices.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3060"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beta11.technodreamcenter.com\/360youthservices.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3060"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beta11.technodreamcenter.com\/360youthservices.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3060"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}